Treating Your Children: Getting The Balance Right
Considering how often we adults attempt to keep up with what the Jones family living next door owns, it is little wonder that our offspring are constantly bugging us for the latest video gaming gadget or those must have fashionable jeans. Now as the folks, you could just hand over your credit card/credit card, wallet or purse to your offspring and give them permission to charge everything they currently want to your own finances. Should you do this though, you will have to accept that you will probably be accused of being bad parents by other couples in your neighbourhood!
You may think that limiting purchases for you child may see them face moments of exclusion within the walls and playground of their school. Children should not be taught that their worth is based on the trivial things which they own though? You can still treat you children to the things they want occasionally. I recommend Christmas and/or birthdays for this, or those times when they have done particularly well at school or with and extracurricular activity.
If you must spoil your little ones, be sure to tell them “no” more often than not. If you do not heed my advice, it is likely that you will end up with poor credit! All too regular spoiling of children can give them especially rotten attitudes and these will limit their understanding that reward unfortunately does not come without hard work in the “Real World”. Living in the “Real World” will be almost impossible should your child not be taught this important lessons from as early age as possible!
In addition to this, if children are merely handed everything they ever want then there is never any incentive for them to behave well. Good behaviour bribery is not the way forward either however. Be sure never to overuse the rewarding carrot nor the disciplinary stick in isolation!
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